Two babies. Two families. And two journeys that changed my life in ways I never expected.
I didn’t set out thinking I would become a surrogate, let alone do it twice. But life has a funny way of leading you exactly where you’re meant to be.
My first journey was with a couple from Germany. Most of our connection happened from a distance through messages, updates, and getting to know each other across time zones. It could have felt impersonal, but it didn’t. It felt intentional. Every message mattered. Every update meant something.
In December 2021, I gave birth to their son on Christmas Eve, at home.
It was calm, quiet, and honestly a little magical. The kind of moment that doesn’t feel rushed or clinical, just steady and meaningful. And then suddenly, he was here – a baby who had been hoped for, planned for, and loved long before he was born.
Watching his parents meet him for the first time is something I will never forget. It is one of those moments that stays with you.
And the connection didn’t end there.
We still keep in touch. I get messages, photos, and videos with little glimpses into his life as he grows. It is such a unique kind of relationship. I am not part of his everyday life, but I am still connected to his story in a way that feels really special.
That first journey changed something in me.
At the time, I had been working as a Law Clerk for 20 years, but I had never stepped into fertility law. After going through surrogacy myself, I found myself wanting to stay connected to this world, not just personally, but professionally too.
As it happened, Michelle was looking for someone at just the right time, and I began working part-time with her at Flowerday Fertility Law.
Now, I help Intended Parents with the legal parentage process in surrogacy journeys. On paper, it sounds procedural with documents, court filings and timelines, but it never feels that way. Every file has a story behind it. Every client is on a path that has likely taken a lot to get to that point.
Because I have been a surrogate, I understand it in a different way. The emotions, the trust, the unknowns.. and they are not theoretical for me.
And it doesn’t feel like work, which is something I don’t take for granted.
And then, I did it again.
My second surrogacy journey ended in November 2024 with the birth of a baby girl for a family here in Ontario. This time, things looked a little different. The parents were local, which meant more in-person connection and more shared moments along the way.
Even though I had done it before, it didn’t feel repetitive. If anything, it reminded me how every surrogacy journey has its own rhythm, its own relationships, and its own story.
But some things stay the same.
That moment when a baby is placed into their parents’ arms for the first time never feels ordinary. It never loses its weight.
And just like my first journey, the connection didn’t end there.
We still keep in touch. I get updates, photos, and videos. Little snapshots of her growing up. It is such a privilege to witness that, even from a distance.
People often ask why I chose to become a surrogate. There is not a single, simple answer.
It is about helping someone build their family when they cannot do it on their own. It is about trust, placing something so important in someone else’s hands and walking that path together. It is about connection in a way that is hard to fully explain unless you have experienced it.
It is also about the bigger picture. Surrogacy is not just one person’s journey. It is a collaboration. Intended parents, surrogates, agencies, clinics, and legal teams all play a role. When it all comes together, it is something pretty incredible.
Now, I get to be part of that in two ways.
As a surrogate, I lived it. As a Law Clerk at Flowerday Fertility Law, I help guide others through it. It feels like everything came full circle in a way I never planned, but somehow makes perfect sense.
When I think about both of my journeys, I do not just think about the births. I think about the relationships that came from them. The trust that was built. The messages I still get. The photos that pop up and make me smile.
Two journeys, two families, and a connection that doesn’t end at birth, it just changes shape.